Holding out for a Hero…

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I have Venus in Aries, so this post every year is always one that I love writing- partly because of that Aries energy and partly because it means that my Venus Return (and at least one reasonably decent hair day) is just around the corner.

Venus doesn’t particularly like being in Aries. Venus is all about the things that make us feel good and Aries is just so… obvious, direct, willful & challenging- not at all what Venus is supposed to be like.

Venus is the ruler of Taurus and Libra, so is much more at home draped nonchalantly across a chaise longue sipping champagne, receiving a manicure (with her free hand, of course) and being fed chocolates by a rather gorgeously buffed footballer rather than charging off to battle (or is that my fantasy?). She has loved the last few weeks in Pisces, where she can be super sensitive, indulge in total romantic fantasy and be just a tad non- discriminating in the love stakes (what did you say your name was again?). But all good things come to an end.

Aries, on the other hand is ruled by Mars, the God of War. Venus in Aries has to dust off the romance and becomes pure huntress to grab what she wants.  And if she doesn’t get it? Think of toddlers in shopping aisles across the country.

In Pisces Venus is able to get what she wants in a Pisces way- often through the manipulation of others, sometimes through playing the victim. In Pisces she can be the damsel in distress. In Pisces, Venus is ultra feminine.

In Aries, if she wants something she just straps on her boots, her red bra (any self respecting woman with Venus in Aries should have at least 1 red accessory…) and her attitude and marches right on in to get it…for herself. In Aries she can look after herself. In Aries she likes a challenge- whether that be a physical challenge or the type of challenge that has my nearly 15 year old Aries Miss working out just how she can beat her Scorpio father in whatever their latest battle of wills happens to be.

Venus in Aries is very much “me first” and is a lot more selfish in what she wants and when she wants it- and that is absolutely OK. How to make her want something more? Withhold it, make her work for it, keep it just a little bit out of reach, delay her gratification. How to piss her off? Do the same.

She also knows who she wants…for a time. If you have Venus in Aries you love quickly, impulsively, competitively & independently. If you have ever woken in the middle of the night with the sudden urge to sing a Partridge Family song, odds are you have Venus in Aries.

On the other hand, Venus in Aries knows just as clearly what she doesn’t want. And she will stamp those feet of hers until you listen/it gets taken away/her attention is diverted. And diversion is actually the best tactic to use. In fact, when dealing with Venus in Aries/ Aries woman in a tantrum, just think about how you would deal with your 3 year old- the two can be very similar.

The Aries Venus woman is drawn to a Mars type man. Whilst she can look after herself perfectly well, she doesn’t want a man who needs looking after. She wants a hero. She wants someone she can battle with & have great make up sex with later, someone who knows what he wants, someone who doesn’t make it too easy for her. Even if (like me) her Sun is in Pisces, she needs a real man- a Superman to sweep her off her feet.

What does this mean? He might have his Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars in Aries, a packed 1st house or maybe Sun conjunct Mars. And trust me, if he has even a combination of these factors, he will sweep you off your feet! And, like the song says, you will feel his approach like a fire in your blood. Oh, be still my beating heart…

The man with Venus in Aries is most likely going to be attracted to a partner with Arian qualities- someone who is a little impulsive, perhaps headstrong and absolutely independently minded. She will be someone who can look after herself. She will be his hero…and probably have at least 1 set of red lingerie.

Sound like you? If you have Venus in Aries, are a woman with the Sun in Aries, Venus in the 1st house and even Venus conjunct Mars- actually probably Venus square or opposite to Mars would also do the trick.

And the song? Holding Out For a Hero of course! Naturally the Bonnie Tyler version- the lyrics still give me goosebumps- even with the cheesy 80s fluoro whips, cap guns and faked dramatics…

Holding Out For a Hero

Keira Knightley as Guinevere
Keira Knightley as Guinevere

I have Venus in Aries, so this post every year is always one that I love writing- partly because of that Aries energy and partly because it means that my Venus Return (and at least one reasonably decent hair day) is just around the corner.

Venus doesn’t particularly like being in Aries. Venus is all about the things that make us feel good and Aries is just so… obvious, direct, wilful & challenging- not at all what Venus is supposed to be like.

Venus is the ruler of Taurus and Libra, so is much more at home draped nonchalantly across a chaise longue sipping champagne, receiving a manicure (with her free hand, of course) and being fed chocolates by a rather gorgeously buffed footballer rather than charging off to battle (or is that my fantasy?). She has loved the last few weeks in Pisces, where she can be super sensitive, indulge in total romantic fantasy and be just a tad non- discriminating in the love stakes (what did you say your name was again?). But all good things come to an end.

Aries, on the other hand is ruled by Mars, the God of War. Venus in Aries has to dust off the romance and becomes pure huntress to grab what she wants.  And if she doesn’t get it? Think of toddlers in shopping aisles across the country.

In Pisces Venus is able to get what she wants in a Pisces way- often through the manipulation of others, sometimes through playing the victim. In Pisces she can be the damsel in distress. In Pisces, Venus is ultra feminine.

In Aries, if she wants something she just straps on her boots, her red bra (any self respecting woman with Venus in Aries should have at least 1 red accessory…although given that I have Venus in Aries, is that a little too much information?) and her attitude and marches right on in to get it…for herself. In Aries she can look after herself. In Aries she likes a challenge- whether that be a physical challenge or the type of challenge that has my nearly 14 year old Aries Miss working out just how she can beat her Scorpio father in whatever their latest battle of wills happens to be.

Venus in Aries is very much “me first” and is a lot more selfish in what she wants and when she wants it- and that is absolutely OK. How to make her want something more? Withhold it, make her work for it, keep it just a little bit out of reach, delay her gratification. How to piss her off? Do the same.

She also knows who she wants…for a time. If you have Venus in Aries you love quickly, impulsively, competitively & independently. If you have ever woken in the middle of the night with the sudden urge to sing a Partridge Family song, odds are you have Venus in Aries.

On the other hand, Venus in Aries knows just as clearly what she doesn’t want. And she will stamp those feet of hers until you listen/it gets taken away/her attention is diverted. And diversion is actually the best tactic to use. In fact, when dealing with Venus in Aries/ Aries woman in a tantrum, just think about how you would deal with your 3 year old- the two can be very similar.

The Aries Venus woman is drawn to a Mars type man. Whilst she can look after herself perfectly well, she doesn’t want a man who needs looking after. She wants a hero. She wants someone she can battle with & have great make up sex with later, someone who knows what he wants, someone who doesn’t make it too easy for her. Even if (like me) her Sun is in Pisces, she needs a real man- a Superman to sweep her off her feet.

What does this mean? He might have his Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars in Aries, a packed 1st house or maybe Sun conjunct Mars. And trust me, if he has even a combination of these factors, he will sweep you off your feet! And, like the song says, you will feel his approach like a fire in your blood. Oh, be still my beating heart…

The man with Venus in Aries is most likely going to be attracted to a partner with Arian qualities- someone who is a little impulsive, perhaps headstrong and absolutely independently minded. She will be someone who can look after herself. She will be his hero…and probably have at least 1 set of red lingerie.

Sound like you? If you have Venus in Aries, are a woman with the Sun in Aries, Venus in the 1st house and even Venus conjunct Mars- actually probably Venus square or opposite to Mars would also do the trick.

And the song? Holding Out For a Hero of course! Naturally the Bonnie Tyler version- the lyrics still give me goosebumps- even with the cheesy 80s fluoro whips, cap guns and faked dramatics…

The Stars and the Sun dance to your drum and now it’s Pandemonium

Symbalon Cards
Symbalon Cards

Never far from being front and centre for attention, the Aries questions are sneaking back into the search engine:

An Aries broke my heart

Oh I am soooo with you on that one

Aries split second love

Yep, you may fall quickly, but they fall out even more quickly!

How to piss off an Aries

Haven’t I already dealt with that one a few times?

Anyways, the Sun moves into Aries on Monday morning, just a day after the Super (perigee) Full Moon. With Jupiter, Mercury and an explosive Uranus already in Aries, that warrior energy is running hot hot hot. To whet your appetite a little, last years Aries’ post (with a few minor tweaks) dedicated to my favourite Aries peeps- you know who you are…after all, it really IS all about you.

Knight of Swords from the Rider Waite Tarot deck
Knight of Swords from the Rider Waite Tarot deck

Astrologers’ attitudes to Sun signs are a little like parents who have a heap of kids- you love them all and even though you know that you shouldn’t, you do have your favourites. Just like parents, there are days where you would sell certain ones for the price of a cupcake. We clash with those who are either most like us or are so different that we can’t understand them. Then there is always the one who is so exasperating and so annoying and so frustrating and yet so goddamn irresistible that we can’t help but lavish a little extra attention.

For me, this is always Aries. I make no apology. I have Venus in Aries so Aries type things and Aries type people make me feel good and excited and alive- which is lucky as I am surrounded by Rams. My daughter has 4 Aries planets (including a 4th house Sun) and my 6ft whatever baby brudda and my absolute bestest male friend are both 1st house Aries Sun & Mars. This post is especially for my favourite Rams, with my love- you know who you are- as chaotic, exhausting and addictive as you are.

I love you really, though I know no-one believes me,
there’s chaos every time we meet

For Aries winning, being first, leading the pack is not a preferred option, it is a birthright, a destiny almost. Aries is about life force, will, courage and an absolute desire to achieve- at all costs. With this will come independence, assurance and unapologetic selfishness.  The biggest challenge for Aries is to learn to pick which battles he really wants to fight, to learn what can and what can’t be controlled or changed. On the rare occasions he loses or stuffs up, he will quickly turn it around and move on.

Oh no, look what you’ve gone and done
you’re creating pandemonium

Aries will blaze trails, fight fires and accept dares. In doing so, the Ram is a stress magnet and manages to create crises in order to solve them and prove his courage. Sometimes it is as if he is whirling from challenge to challenge simply for the sake of perpetual motion. As such, “burn out” is the most common health problem for Aries- when your body just says it has had enough.

Similarly, Aries can be quite accident prone- again because of carelessness as a result of physical exhaustion or fearlessness. Aries Rising, in particular, will carry scars from previous battles, mishaps or tree climbing incidents, or- as in the case of my Aries Rising brudda & Aries Rising (Capricorn) sister- train throwing, toy gun throwing or bike/clothesline collisions. As the Ram usually charges head first, horns down, most scars will be around the head. This is usually an Aries Rising give-away.

You’re crashing everywhere, it’s like you’re smashing china,
skidding on an icy road.
You’re major trouble since you were almost a minor-
I sometimes think we’ll both explode.

At the other end of the spectrum, Aries can easily become depressed or ill when he feels that he doesn’t have a challenge or has lost “himself” in the service or responsibility of others. Aries can also have health issues when fear replaces courage and little tolerance for the health issues of others in fear that it might be catching and his vitality will be diminished as a result. In order to keep the flame burning, Aries does have to keep moving. A bored Aries will pick a fight or create a crisis just for the sake of having a fire to fight. A fearful Aries will hide behind excuses and coulda woulda shouldas.

If we both just stopped for a minute
I declare war and then you’d win it

Aries loves impetuously, completely and quickly, but needs challenge and movement to keep the fire alive. For Aries of both sexes, the hunt is the most exciting part of the game. Space and personal freedom is also important for both sexes to stay healthy and creative. Aries will respond to confinement and loss of independence and purpose with chronic poor health.

If he wants you an Aries man will chase hard and fast. I dare anyone (let alone an impressionable naive fish with a faulty man radar) to resist his impulsive, impetuous, energetic and completely whole hearted pursuit for long. You will believe every line he spins and every us together forever dream he shares. He will be so totally there and unable to be ignored that when the passion of the hunt moves to another you will be devastated…and just a little exhausted.

The Aries man has an almost domineering sex appeal- you can’t help but notice or be affected by his presence- especially if Mars is also in Aries. He will usually be body conscious, works to maintain his fitness and has, shall we say, huge amounts of energy. He will encourage you to look after yourself as well and will make an excellent training partner. He will sweep you off your feet, and will pop you up on a pedestal and blame you if you fall off. He will take charge, solve your problems and inject you with some of his enthusiasm. He can be tactless, honest, incredibly competitive and totally irresistible. He is a knight in shining armour.

That song you sing means everything
to me, I’m living in ecstasy.
My world’s gone mad, what did you do?

He will need space to move and will run a mile if he feels that he needs you too much or if he feels you are trying to control him. The only way to keep an Aries man is on a very long leash and with him believing that he is not in any way dependent on you for anything. He has to win, likes to think your world revolves around him and will want to know that he is the best you have ever had… and, if you can handle the pace, he very well may be! Challenge, mutual discovery and the occasional battle of wills (followed by make- up sex) will keep his interest. Although he wants to win, he wants the outcome to be worth the effort and is suspicious and bored with easy victories.

The Aries woman is independent, self assured and direct. She will say what she thinks and is prepared to suffer the consequences. She knows what and who she wants and can’t be faffed waiting for him to make the first move. She doesn’t play games and will tellyou clearly what she needs. She has energy to burn and will fight for her man and her children. She will, however, suffer if locked in a relationship where her own needs are secondary to those of others. This is not a woman who thrives in a boring or unchanging relationship.

She will push to achieve in the workplace, as long as she can withstand external pressures of what and who she should be. In such instances fear can overshadow courage. Even if not in the workplace she needs external meaningful interests and causes or battles to fight. The Aries woman can look after herself and needs a man who appreciates her strength and who is prepared to give her personal and creative freedom. Without this, resentment will breed and despondency and ill health will follow.

Is this a riot or are you just pleased to see me?
Why aren’t we holding hands and talking sweets?

The Sun is said to be exalted, or exaggerated in Aries. The Sun is dramatic and creative in “look at me, all about me” Leo, but in Aries it is pioneering, adventurous and very much “this is my life”. Aries takes the energy of the Sun and turns it into something amazing. Embrace this, and act- don’t just think about it or talk about it… get out there and do it. No regrets, no excuses.

The stars and the sun dance to your drum
and now it’s pandemonium!

 Lyrics from “Pandemonium” by the Pet Shop Boys. See the video on YouTube.