Tuesday 27 August

Moon in Taurus

A friend posted the picture above on her Facebook page yesterday morning.

I suspect I could ask this question of 10 friends and get 10 different answers- and a number of extremely judgemental responses.  The answer I get, the answer you’d give, would be determined, at least in part by your Venus and her relationship to Uranus in your chart.

Venus/Uranus contacts bring with them a compulsion to share your individuality with another, to be yourself with another. And yes, that does make sense….and yes, it is possible. It’s the nature of the aspect involved that will provide information as to how easy (or otherwise) you find this.

When difficult aspects are involved ie the conjunction, the square, the opposition or the inconjunct, you may find it difficult to resolve the tension between the concept of relationship and the concept of individuality.

The conjunction, I hear you say… surely the conjunction isn’t difficult? When Uranus and Venus are involved, it absolutely has the potential to be. Venus, after all, is, amongst other things, about relating, and Uranus…well, Uranus is not. In many cases, the motivation of the two planets is different…in many cases.

I remember when I first started studying, someone (who should have known better) looked at my chart, saw Uranus in the 7^th in opposition to the Sun and Moon and inconjunct Venus and asked me how many times I’d been married. Hmmm.

Anyways, when Venus and Uranus are in difficult aspect, you may find that you become easily bored in relationship, that you need more variety and experimentation in order to feel completely satisfied. Indeed you might find that within a relationship you might need to reinvent yourself or the way in which you commit in order to, well, stay committed.

This is the mood that’s in the air right now as Venus opposes Uranus.

The thing is, the whole flush of excitement and newness can’t last- not forever- that’s part of what makes those moments so amazing. But there are moments of wonderful to be found in even the longest and most familiar relationships- if you’re prepared to find them, and if this is important to you. Perhaps it’s not.

Also, you can be in a relationship and still maintain your own identity- if you’re prepared to do so, and if this is important to you. Perhaps it’s not.

That’s the message of this opposition- how to balance your need for individuality and space (Uranus in Aries) against the idea or ideal of what relationship should be (Venus in Libra). Your idea…not that of your best friend or your parents or society or the church or the state. Yours. No judgement.

It might be that your relationship may be conducted on more unconventional grounds than others. It might be that you’re no longer prepared to fight or fight for it, or it might be that after a period of apart you’re ready again to be close. It might mean that stability is your motivator so you’re prepared to look for excitement in creative or career endeavours. It might mean all of these things or something very different. We’re all different- as are our relationship and identity needs- despite what society may have conditioned you to think.

In any case, this transit is short-lived- unless it is part of something bigger happening in your chart.

Tomorrow Venus squares Jupiter. Despite the square, this transit is one that’s both self indulgent and strangely conducive to personal relationships…so here’s me thinking that you’ll probably be able to get your own way- if you’re clever about it. If you’re feeling a little stuck in a rut, find something that you both enjoy doing, and give yourself up to some fun.

Oh and my answer to the question? That would be telling…