Todays piece is one of the harder ones I have had to write- not because Scorpio is one of those signs which I have difficulty with, but because Scorpio has such a bad reputation. Whilst all signs have their shadow, it is the dark side of Scorpio which is most often held to be true. So with much love to Scorpio, here is my attempt at balancing the account- not that you need me to stand up for you, of course!
Think about fear… just for a minute. Go on… what are you really scared of? Is it death, dying, aging, crowds, rejection, heartbreak, feeling too much? Think about that fear, go to the root of it and below into the murky depths of your soul. Now you are seeing and feeling Scorpio. This is the place where our most basic fears and instincts live. This is the deepest and most intensely authentic part of you. But before you run away, this is also the area where you have the most potential to effect transformation.
It is this mix of intensity and transformational potential which makes us turn away from Scorpio, and indeed from the 8th house. It is this fear and the association with life, death and sex that also gives Scorpio, the most deeply darkly emotional of the water signs, a bad reputation. As with all signs, there is a positive and a shadow side to Scorpio, but often it is only the shadow cliché which we associate with Scorpio and which we hold to be true. This makes sense – Scorpio is so incredibly guarded and private that we may only see beneath the surface when a line is crossed.
The fixed and focused nature of Scorpio is such that once hurt, never forgiven, never forgotten- revenge will be taken. The scorpion can lie in wait as long as it takes, his hapless victims will not know what hit them, but satisfaction will be attained. What is being avenged here is more essential than a real or imagined slight, it is instead about honesty, betrayal and authenticity. Scorpio is that critical point between life and death where nothing else matters and everything comes down to the rawest and most honest truth- and nothing but the truth. And before I hear you say in your best Jack Nicholson voice “You can’t handle the truth.” Let me tell you, Scorpio can and will. What she can’t handle is being lied to. And really, why should she?
I am surrounded by Scorpios- I love their intensity, their drive, their passion, their focus, their loyalty, their depth and their ability to completely transform the status quo- no other sign can go even close to matching it. No one can get to your soul, your heart or your truth as effectively as Scorpio. Unfortunately, this can also mean that Scorpio has the potential to hurt and damage you should they choose to. What I also see is those Scorpios close to me struggling with the fear that comes with these extremes- the fear of feeling too much, the fear of relinquishing control, and the fear of letting go.
If you have the Sun in Scorpio, you will be motivated to experience intense emotional connections- merging with someone else in a way which transcends the physical. It is this, and the fact that Scorpio rules the sexual organs and the organs of elimination in the body, that also gives rise to the cliché of Scorpio being the most sexual of signs. But sex for Scorpio is about more than physical release and pleasure. It is about la petite mort, the little death- the raw transformative experience that complete physical and emotional merging can bring. It can, however, also be about the darker motivations of control, obsession and possession- Scorpio does not like to share and can guard that which is “his” with jealous paranoia in need. Feeling with the intensity of Scorpio is also to expose the soft inner core and to risk betrayal, abandonment and heartbreak. Scorpio is, as a result, slow to trust and will not do so until all data has been gathered, examined and you have proven yourself and given yourself body and soul into his keeping . In return he will give himself- not something to be taken lightly.
In the meantime, it pays to listen carefully to your intuition. If Scorpio is interested in you, she will be subtle. The signals themselves are a test. Opening up is to risk rejection, instead Scorpio needs you to prove your intentions and reciprocation by risking yourself first. If you have planets in Scorpio, whatever is represented by those planets will be where this plays out in your life. With plenty of Pisces planets, my intuition is pretty good, but with Mars in Scorpio in the 8th house in my chart, my Scorpio hubby and I circled each other for some time before we finally hooked up. I was reading his signals, he was reading mine, but I was not going to risk rejection by making the 1st move and nor was he. We only got together because a mutual friend arranged for us both to go to a movie with her & when she (deliberately) didn’t turn up we found ourselves on neutral ground. Twenty years on, I guess I would have to say the risk was worth it!