Road to Nowhere


Sometimes music says it best. I have a girlfriend who does a CD mix every year full of songs which say the things she wants to say.

I often wish I could do the same, but it would still be exposing my feelings too much. Perhaps this is why I like to use music in these posts- sometimes a song lyric says it better than I ever could.

I love it when Venus or Mars are in Scorpio. So many songs about obsession, jealousy, deep love.  Songs like Amiel’s Obsession (I Love You) and Pet Shop Boys Jealousy are about love my way- the way I feel.

Lyrics like this from Amiel’s Obsession are what it’s all about- saying stuff that you feel but can’t say:

See these hands they wanna touch you

See these eyes they wanna watch you

See this mouth it has to taste you

As our lips part I start to miss you

And with my arms wrapped around you
I breathe in and I devour you

Venus in Sagittarius couldn’t be more different. Where Venus in Scorpio is love in deep water, in Sagittarius she is a firework. Where Venus in Scorpio is intense, in Sagittarius she is light and fun. Where Venus in Scorpio wants to possess and control, Sagittarius wants to run free and experience everything the world has to offer (and more) preferably with other free spirits.

Venus in Sagittarius is a group of backpackers from a heap of different countries travelling together in a combi van with surfboards on the roof up the coast to Byron Bay, swapping cultures and languages over a beer in the beachside pub. The group will expand- Venus in Sagittarius likes to collect people along the way.

Venus in Sagittarius is setting off on the road less travelled, broadening horizons through travel and philosophy and ideas and cultures. Venus in Sagittarius is following a Guru to an ashram in India, gazing longingly at Indiana Jones in teacher mode at University and finding love across the seas.

So what song do I use for that? Possibly Robbie Williams’ Sin Sin Sin or The Road To Mandalay. Beach Boys Surfin’USA, or perhaps Train’s Drops Of Jupiter? Maybe even Waterboys’ Whole of the Moon?

Where Venus in Scorpio wants all of you in a complete emotional merging, Venus in Sagittarius may not be around for garbage night. Venus in Scorpio is slow to trust, Venus in Sagittarius “just knows”, she has faith. She knows how it feels to get too high, too far, too soon.

It is here that the similarities between Pisces and Sagittarius (the 2 signs ruled by Jupiter) are at their most obvious. Both signs are escape artists, both signs have their eyes very firmly fastened on the future, both signs are just a tad allergic to the here and now and will break out in hives at the mention of the word “reality”, and both signs will roll their eyes back in their heads and self destruct rather than be chained or fenced in. Both signs have faith

Venus in Sagittarius doesn’t like their love to be too heavy. Sure she likes to philosophise, but not about her relationships. And it will be in the plural- Venus in Sagittarius doesn’t like to settle down too young, at least not before she has had a chance to test her wings out, sow her wild oats, so to speak.

And she likes honesty…to the point of bluntness. “I’m just not that into you” is exactly what it is. “Is my bum fat in these jeans?” Yep…but a man with Venus in Sagittarius probably likes a woman with a bit of cushioning in that area, so to speak. In fact, a man with Venus in Sag will be more of a bums & legs man than a tits man.

He will also want someone he can share life’s adventure with, someone with ideals and faith, a friend, a fellow traveller. Men with Venus in Sagittarius often choose a partner from a different culture, different circle, perhaps someone a little exotic. Maybe someone who is in touch with her own spirituality, a Teacher (with a capital T), someone who likes to broadcast a message. Diversity is paramount.

If you want someone to discuss culture, religion & politics with, choose Venus in Sagittarius. Want to party all night and rise at dawn to catch the sunset from the top of a mountain? Choose Venus in Sagittarius.

But if you are into analysing the state of your relationship or emotional dramas? Move on. Quickly. He already has. He doesn’t play games & doesn’t want someone who will do this. He doesn’t have time for manipulation, tact or flattery. So if you like those things, stay clear of Mr Sagittarius. While you are crying into your drink, he will have moved on- not having any idea what he said to upset you…nor will he care greatly. He is often oblivious to the hearts he leaves behind. Which brings me to another song suggestion- David Bowies’ Putting Out Fire With Gasoline perhaps? (Bowie has Venus in Sagittarius).

Having said that, Venus in Sagittarius has the optimism and generosity of Jupiter. He would give you his last $20, because seriously, Dude, there will always be more around the corner.

Venus in Sagittarius likes to play the field, check out what the fillies are like in the other paddock and, shall we say, experiment a bit. Bungy sex anyone? For all those people who have come onto this site asking “how do I get a Sagittarius to commit?” the answer is clear. You don’t.  Sag is a fun date, a great mate, but getting him to commit is often a matter of being in the right place at the right time. He won’t do anything he doesn’t want to do. Try and break her in and you will only break her spirit…plus, she will probably do the bolt at the first possible opportunity.

Unlike Venus in Scorpio, Venus in Sagittarius will not try to own you, and will be over that fence if you try and own him. As for trying to make him jealous? Forget it- he doesn’t do manipulative games. But treat the relationship as two equal partners out on the adventure of a lifetime and it could just last a lifetime. One thing is for certain, with Venus in Sagittarius, there will never be a dull moment.

Well we know where we’re goin’, 
but we don’t know where we’ve been.

And we know what we’re knowing, 
but we can’t say what we’ve seen.

And we’re not little children 
and we know what we want.

And the future is certain, 
give us time to work it out.

We’re on a road to nowhere, 
come on inside.

Takin’ that ride to nowhere
, we’ll take that ride.

I’m feelin’ okay this mornin’ 
and you know.

We’re on the road to paradise, 
here we go

Maybe you wonder where you are
I don’t care

Here is where time is on our side

Take you there…take you there

Road to Nowhere, by Talking Heads… check it out on YouTube

This sound like you? If you have Venus in Sagittarius, Venus in close aspect to Jupiter (especially the conjunction) or Venus in the 9th house, you will identify with this post. If you are a Sagittarius woman, this is also you- in fact your theme song could very well be Fleetwood Macs Gypsy.

Legian Beach, Bali. Pic by me.
Legian Beach, Bali. Pic by me.