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Mars in Virgo

Mars is about to leave I’m sexy and I know it (does that mirror need to be moved a little to the left?) Leo.  All that romantic, dramatic, luxurious flair can get a man down. And as for the performance pressure associated with keeping your hair so great for so long, well, that just doesn’t bear thinking about!

None of that in Virgo… Virgo doesn’t do drama or theatrics, which is actually a relief in a way. In view of me trying to keep this a snark free enhance the positives zone, I am really struggling with something light and breezy to write about Mars in Virgo, so I am going to start with a quote by the brilliant Stephen Arroyo (from his book Relationships & LifeCycles)… blame him, not me:

“Virgo has always been known for being an analytical sign. With Mars in Virgo in a woman’s chart, does this mean she would analyse men or analyse sex? At a workshop a lady with Mars in Virgo stood up and said “yes, you know I have this little rating chart in my head from 1 to 10…”

This certainly gives more meaning to a “to do” list…or should that be a “would do” list?

It brings to mind a joke I received on email during the week that goes something like (but I have embellished just a tad for dramatic and astrological correctness) this:

A girl meets a gorgeous looking man in a club. They get to talking and she really likes him. He looks fit and healthy, seems to know where he is going and actually has a brain- something she hasn’t come across a lot lately- all the guys she’s met lately have looked great, but haven’t had a lot to say.

Anyway, one thing leads to another and he takes her back to his place. She can’t believe her luck. This guy was wearing linen pants that hadn’t even creased. In fact, he had an empty ironing basket in the laundry (she checked). She made an excuse to check out his bathroom. The shower screen was gleaming, the toilet lid was down and the cupboards revealed back up soaps, toothpaste and dental floss. This guy even seemed to change his toothbrush by the season. Wow!

In the bedroom she was in for another surprise. On shelves above his bed were a variety of fluffy stuffed toys in every colour. She was touched and even more attracted. Here was a man who kept himself tidy, practiced good dental and personal hygiene and wasn’t afraid to display his feminine side.

Getting down to business, he didn’t jump straight on her, and whilst his energy levels weren’t huge, she certainly couldn’t fault his technique- he was a completely unselfish lover and definitely knew his way around. Afterward, very satisfied, she lay back in his arms, smiled up at him and sighed. ‘So, how was it for you?’ she asked shyly, already looking forward to their next date.

He stretched languidly, looked at her consideringly and said, ‘pick any toy from the middle row.’ Boom boom. Again, don’t blame me…

It’s a bit like that scene in the 1st Sex & the City movie where the girls are talking about “colouring” and how many times a week they “colour”. Miranda, the earth component, is keen to know what frequency is normal as she can’t understand why the others are still so interested in sex given their busy lives- sex for her was way down the priority list after everything else she was responsible for. It wasn’t that she didn’t enjoy it, just that sex had become another chore to be scheduled in. Something else to be added to the list.

It isn’t that Mars in Virgo isn’t interested in sex, far from it…just that life is busy- real busy- and quite often the energy and drive needs to be directed elsewhere.  There are always the must be done details of everyday life that take priority- especially when you have a job and a home and kids and a life. Anyway, there is more to Mars than sex drive…

The position of Mars in our chart tells us about our energy levels, what drives us, what turns us on (or off), and even how we like to lose our temper. It points us towards what we want, our desires, and how we go about satisfying them. In relationship analysis we look at Mars in both charts to see compatibility (or challenges) from a sexual and energy viewpoint, whilst Mars in a woman’s chart usually gives us an idea as to what type of man she will fall for- in spite of whatever checklist may be operating in the background.

Virgo is a mutable earth sign, so Mars in this sign will be driven towards the achievement of practical goals. As much as Virgo doesn’t like to admit it, Mars in this sign is energised by work and the work effort. As a result, energy is likely to be scattered across a number of tasks at once. Mars in Virgo gets off on multi-tasking, and enjoys being responsible for the details and systems that no one else can take care of.

And he generally does everything very well- usually better than others would…if he let them.  But oh how he drives himself. Mars in Virgo will push himself to the absolute brink and beyond to get something done to the level of quality that is deemed by him to be acceptable. Anyone else will have declared it good enough, packed up for the night and been on their 3rd beer at the pub.

Women with Mars in Virgo are often attracted to partners with Virgo characteristics. This may be someone with planets in Virgo, or someone who upholds strong Virgo qualities- hard-working, practical and who will look after her and deal with the details of life. He may have a strong interest in health and fitness and maintain a good and consistent routine… and encourage you to do so too! On the other side, if could be someone who wants you to do that for them!

Wherever Virgo is in your chart, is the part of life that will be energized for you until early December…

Although Mars isn’t particularly powerful in Virgo, he will be, this time around, in mutual reception with Mercury who is in the sign ruled traditionally by Mars, ie Scorpio.

Although Mars and Mercury are in each others signs, the reception itself isn’t technically in effect until they make an actual aspect with each other- which won’t be until December. That’s not to say that there isn’t a bit of helping out that will be occurring in the meantime.

I’ll leave that one with you…

Oh, another thing…don’t be too hard on yourself.