It’s Pandemonium

Aries knight of swords

The Sun moves into Aries tomorrow. To whet your appetite a little, last years Aries’ post (with a few minor tweaks) dedicated to my favourite Aries peeps- you know who you are…after all, it really IS all about you

Astrologers’ attitudes to Sun signs are a little like parents who have a heap of kids- you love them all and even though you know that you shouldn’t, you do have your favourites. Just like parents, there are days where you would sell certain ones for the price of a cupcake. We clash with those who are either most like us, or are so different that we can’t understand them. Then there is always the one who is so exasperating and so annoying and so frustrating and yet so goddamn irresistible that we can’t help but lavish a little extra attention.

For me, this is always Aries. I make no apology. I have Venus in Aries so Aries type things and Aries type people make me feel good and excited and alive- which is lucky as I am surrounded by Rams. My daughter has 4 Aries planets (including a 4th house Sun) and my 6ft whatever baby brudda and my absolute bestest male friend are both 1st house Aries Sun & Mars.

This post is especially for my favourite Rams, with my love- you know who you are- as chaotic, exhausting and addictive as you are.

For Aries winning, being first, leading the pack is not a preferred option, it is a birthright, a destiny almost. Aries is about life force, will, courage and an absolute desire to achieve- at all costs. With this will come independence, assurance and unapologetic selfishness.  The biggest challenge for Aries is to learn to pick which battles he really wants to fight, to learn what can and what can’t be controlled or changed. On the rare occasions he loses or stuffs up, he will quickly turn it around and move on.

Aries will blaze trails, fight fires and accept dares. In doing so, the Ram is a stress magnet and manages to create crises in order to solve them and prove his courage. Sometimes it is as if he is whirling from challenge to challenge simply for the sake of perpetual motion. As such, “burn out” or adrenal exhaustion is the most common health problem for Aries- when your body just says it has had enough.

Similarly, Aries can be quite accident prone- again because of carelessness as a result of physical exhaustion or fearlessness. Aries Rising, in particular, will carry scars from previous battles, mishaps or tree climbing incidents, or- as in the case of my Aries Rising brudda & Aries Rising (Capricorn) sister- train throwing, toy gun throwing or bike/clothesline collisions. As the Ram usually charges head first, horns down, most scars will be around the head. This is usually an Aries Rising give-away.

At the other end of the spectrum, Aries can easily become depressed or ill when he feels that he doesn’t have a challenge or has lost “himself” in the service or responsibility of others. Aries can also have health issues when fear replaces courage. He may also have little tolerance for the health issues of others in fear that it might be catching and his vitality will be diminished as a result. In order to keep the flame burning, Aries does have to keep moving. A bored Aries will pick a fight or create a crisis just for the sake of having a fire to fight. A fearful Aries will hide behind excuses and coulda woulda shouldas. But Aries asserting his will? Well, that’s just plain remarkable.

Aries loves impetuously, completely and quickly, but needs challenge and movement to keep the fire alive. For Aries of both sexes, the hunt is the most exciting part of the game. Space and personal freedom is also important for both sexes to stay healthy and creative. Aries will respond to confinement and loss of independence and purpose with chronic poor health.

If he wants you an Aries man will chase hard and fast. I dare anyone (let alone an impressionable naive fish with a faulty man radar) to resist his impulsive, impetuous, energetic and completely whole hearted pursuit for long. You will believe every line he spins and every “us together forever” dream he shares. He will be so totally there and unable to be ignored that when the passion of the hunt moves to another you will be devastated…and just a little exhausted.

The Aries man has an almost domineering sex appeal- you can’t help but notice or be affected by his presence- especially if Mars is also in Aries. This doesn’t mean that he will be a “no neck”, “knuckle-dragging” hunk of insensitive testosterone and missing links- this is definitely not the case, although if you follow the cliches, you might be confused into thinking this is who he is. Sure this is a physical sign, but that is way too one dimensional for this man. He will, however, usually be body conscious, works to maintain his fitness and has, shall we say, huge amounts of energy. He will encourage you to look after yourself as well and will make an excellent training partner. He will sweep you off your feet, and will pop you up on a pedestal and blame you if you fall off. He will take charge, solve your problems and inject you with some of his enthusiasm. He can be tactless, honest, incredibly competitive and totally irresistible. He is a knight in shining armour.

He will need space to move and will run a mile if he feels that he needs you too much or if he feels you are trying to control him. The only way to keep an Aries man is on a very long leash and with him believing that he is not in any way dependent on you for anything. He likes to think your world revolves around him and will want to know that he is the best you have ever had… and, if you can handle the pace, he very well may be! Challenge, mutual discovery and the occasional battle of wills (followed by make- up sex) will keep his interest. Although he wants to win, he wants the outcome to be worth the effort and is suspicious and bored with easy victories.

One of the most asked questions on the search engine is How do I keep my Aries boyfriend? Second only to “how do I piss off an Aries?” (I’m serious…) The answer (to the first) is simply that you can’t- not if he doesn’t want to be kept…ever tried to move a merino ram? And seriously, why would you want to? You fell in love with him and all of his wonderful, willful and frustrating habits. Why would you want to constrain or contain that? The answer to the 2nd? Quite easily… and covered here and here.

The Aries woman is independent, self assured and direct. She will say what she thinks and is prepared to suffer the consequences. She knows what and who she wants and can’t be faffed waiting for him to make the first move. She doesn’t play games and will tell you clearly what she needs. She has energy to burn and will fight for her man and her children. She will, however, suffer if locked in a relationship where her own needs are secondary to those of others. This is not a woman who thrives in a boring or unchanging relationship.

She will push to achieve in the workplace, as long as she can withstand external pressures of what and who she should be. In such instances fear can overshadow courage. Even if not in the workplace she needs external meaningful interests and causes or battles to fight. The Aries woman can look after herself and needs a man who appreciates her strength and who is prepared to give her personal and creative freedom. Without this, resentment will breed and despondency and ill health will follow.

The Sun is said to be exalted, or exaggerated in Aries. The Sun is dramatic and creative in “look at me, all about me” Leo, but in Aries it is pioneering, adventurous and very much “this is my life”. Aries takes the energy of the Sun and turns it into something amazing. Embrace this, and act- don’t just think about it or talk about it… get out there and do it. No regrets, no excuses.

Check out the lyrics from “Pandemonium” by the Pet Shop Boys. See the video on YouTube.