I think I love you….


So it’s Valentines Day.

I know it’s a travesty to my Pisces-ness, but I’ve never, and I mean never, done Valentines Day. Perhaps it’s my Venus in Aries. Perhaps it’s my 7th house Uranus.

In every other way I consider myself a romantic- I write romance!

A couple of years ago I was in New York with a friend over Valentines Day. My friend wanted to go up the Empire State Building on Valentines Night. I didn’t want to queue. I don’t do queuing either. Instead we went up on the night of the 13th, which was Valentines Day In Sydney anyway.

Honestly it was so freezing up there that if I was Meg Ryan, there’s no way I would have waited any longer than I had to for Tom Hanks.

Anyways, Valentines Day turns the mind to relationship.  Are we meant to be together for, like, ever?

The thing is, relationship is complex. It isn’t just a matter of Sun sign compatibility, it’s so much more than that. It’s how we react emotionally to each other, how we communicate, what each of us needs from relationships and how we are in the bedroom.

More than that, it’s how our charts interact and combine. It’s complex.

Some of you like challenge in our relationships and are drawn to partners whose planets aspect ours by square or opposition. Some of you need harmony and a relationship that settles into something inherently easy. These people would be needing their partners chart to seamlessly aspect theirs.

Some of you are drawn to the unattainable, the unavailable, the “unsuitable”. Some of you are drawn to the missing elements in our own chart. Some of you are drawn to your opposites.

There are some relationships where the charts compared against each other would be either ho hum or short term in nature, but that when combined are long term and stable.

So, how do you know if you’re meant to be together? If you’ll hook up? If he likes you as much as you like him? A chart comparison won’t show you that. A chart comparison will only show you the potential if that relationship ever comes to pass. Incredible synastry between your chart and George Clooney’s chart means nothing unless you’re actually in a relationship.

Horary is a good quick answer- and can be scarily accurate…but before you ask, I don’t do relationship horary. I refuse to. Why? Horary is supposed to be question and answer. Short, simple, no nonsense. In my experience, relationship horary questions are rarely simple, and the answer is rarely the answer you want to hear. This leads to questions and more questions and what ifs. My Venus in Aries has moved on already.

I will however, do a post on it later this week so you can muck around with it yourself. Also, if you are keen on having a relationship horary done, email me and I’ll refer you to someone.

So, it’s Valentines Day, and you are fortunate enough to have a significant other, or a significant other in mind, and you want to know if 2 + 2 equals something magical?

Check out this post for a quick and easy pointer to how you two combine. You don’t need birth times, just a birth date. If you need to cast a chart for your other half, you can do it for free at astro.com.

Remember, keep an open mind on this- challenging aspects bring with them spark and interest, and encourage growth. If it was all hearts and flowers it would be as boring as batshit.


  1. This is v interesting:

    Some of you are drawn to the unattainable, the unavailable, the “unsuitable”. Some of you are drawn to the missing elements in our own chart. Some of you are drawn to your opposites.

    I´ve been thinking about this for the last few days because I just realized that all my exes have been commitment-phobes who break my heart, and the only guy who is the polar opposite of that is the guy I just finished with- perfect in every way but something was missing, i couldn´t put my finger on it but I´m thinking it may be this- he´s not unattainable. I´ve done some soul searching and concluded it´s all down to crappy male role models my whole life, rejection as a kid etc and chasing the same experience as an adult. So my question is, how much is attributable to the stars and how much our past? Should I try break this addicted to rejection cycle now I recognise it and stick with Mr Perfect, who loves me deeply and therefore isn´t a challenge? Or is it pointless fighting my feelings if that´s my path and actually it could turn out ok in the end with a compatible commitment-phobe..?? Any thoughts would really really help. Thanks x

    1. All of the above Sarah. The choices we make are a function of our chart, the choices we make are a function of our past…and it all ties together. The challenge is always to break free of the past and invent the future. Look at Venus in your chart- where it is, what it aspects. Sometimes we are so used to what we’re used to that when the crap isn’t there we go looking for it- often unconsciously. Sometimes we go towards the pain because that’s what we’re used to…a different path can be weird, you don’t know how to handle it, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. If you’ve found someone who treats you well, he’s definitely worth a shot…who’s to say how it will turn out in the end?

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