Holding Out For a Hero

Keira Knightley as Guinevere
Keira Knightley as Guinevere

I have Venus in Aries, so this post every year is always one that I love writing- partly because of that Aries energy and partly because it means that my Venus Return (and at least one reasonably decent hair day) is just around the corner.

Venus doesn’t particularly like being in Aries. Venus is all about the things that make us feel good and Aries is just so… obvious, direct, wilful & challenging- not at all what Venus is supposed to be like.

Venus is the ruler of Taurus and Libra, so is much more at home draped nonchalantly across a chaise longue sipping champagne, receiving a manicure (with her free hand, of course) and being fed chocolates by a rather gorgeously buffed footballer rather than charging off to battle (or is that my fantasy?). She has loved the last few weeks in Pisces, where she can be super sensitive, indulge in total romantic fantasy and be just a tad non- discriminating in the love stakes (what did you say your name was again?). But all good things come to an end.

Aries, on the other hand is ruled by Mars, the God of War. Venus in Aries has to dust off the romance and becomes pure huntress to grab what she wants.  And if she doesn’t get it? Think of toddlers in shopping aisles across the country.

In Pisces Venus is able to get what she wants in a Pisces way- often through the manipulation of others, sometimes through playing the victim. In Pisces she can be the damsel in distress. In Pisces, Venus is ultra feminine.

In Aries, if she wants something she just straps on her boots, her red bra (any self respecting woman with Venus in Aries should have at least 1 red accessory…although given that I have Venus in Aries, is that a little too much information?) and her attitude and marches right on in to get it…for herself. In Aries she can look after herself. In Aries she likes a challenge- whether that be a physical challenge or the type of challenge that has my nearly 14 year old Aries Miss working out just how she can beat her Scorpio father in whatever their latest battle of wills happens to be.

Venus in Aries is very much “me first” and is a lot more selfish in what she wants and when she wants it- and that is absolutely OK. How to make her want something more? Withhold it, make her work for it, keep it just a little bit out of reach, delay her gratification. How to piss her off? Do the same.

She also knows who she wants…for a time. If you have Venus in Aries you love quickly, impulsively, competitively & independently. If you have ever woken in the middle of the night with the sudden urge to sing a Partridge Family song, odds are you have Venus in Aries.

On the other hand, Venus in Aries knows just as clearly what she doesn’t want. And she will stamp those feet of hers until you listen/it gets taken away/her attention is diverted. And diversion is actually the best tactic to use. In fact, when dealing with Venus in Aries/ Aries woman in a tantrum, just think about how you would deal with your 3 year old- the two can be very similar.

The Aries Venus woman is drawn to a Mars type man. Whilst she can look after herself perfectly well, she doesn’t want a man who needs looking after. She wants a hero. She wants someone she can battle with & have great make up sex with later, someone who knows what he wants, someone who doesn’t make it too easy for her. Even if (like me) her Sun is in Pisces, she needs a real man- a Superman to sweep her off her feet.

What does this mean? He might have his Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars in Aries, a packed 1st house or maybe Sun conjunct Mars. And trust me, if he has even a combination of these factors, he will sweep you off your feet! And, like the song says, you will feel his approach like a fire in your blood. Oh, be still my beating heart…

The man with Venus in Aries is most likely going to be attracted to a partner with Arian qualities- someone who is a little impulsive, perhaps headstrong and absolutely independently minded. She will be someone who can look after herself. She will be his hero…and probably have at least 1 set of red lingerie.

Sound like you? If you have Venus in Aries, are a woman with the Sun in Aries, Venus in the 1st house and even Venus conjunct Mars- actually probably Venus square or opposite to Mars would also do the trick.

And the song? Holding Out For a Hero of course! Naturally the Bonnie Tyler version- the lyrics still give me goosebumps- even with the cheesy 80s fluoro whips, cap guns and faked dramatics…