Bad Romance: Venus in Scorpio

Photo credit: 101dalmatians for istock
Photo credit: 101dalmatians for istock

“I want your love and I want your revenge…I want your love, I don’t want to be friends.”

This line from Lady Gagas’ Bad Romance sum up Venus in Scorpio perfectly. Venus in Libra was all about partnership, appearances, beauty and charm. Venus in Scorpio is truth and honesty and loyalty and intense compulsion.

The Venus we saw in Libra was a milk chocolate girl- sweet and pretty with a lovely texture and melt in the mouth soft centre. The Venus we saw in Libra was a little detached, charming and just a tad on the conservative side. She was looking for a partner, her “other half”, the one who would balance out her weaknesses and maximise her strengths. That Venus was a social butterfly, equally at home somewhere fabulous for cappuccino and cakes with her girlfriends as dressed to the nines somewhere else fabulous having cocktails.

This Venus, Venus in Scorpio, is very different. This Venus is a bittersweet dark dark truffle, perhaps with a touch of chilli. This Venus is private, obsessive and dark around the edges. This Venus can be kinky, a dominatrix and all consuming. This Venus doesn’t want a partner, she wants a soul-mate- she wants all of you for herself. She wants everything. She wants your ugly, she wants your desire. She wants your passion. She doesn’t want to be friends. And she is irresistable. Sound delicious, scary or straight out weird?

Venus is in ruler-ship in Taurus, Scorpio’s opposite. This means she is in her detriment in Scorpio. She finds all the intensity and undertones just a little too much work and way too messy. Venus is in the business of attraction and pleasure, but in Scorpio she mesmerizes. In Scorpio she wants it all. In Scorpio she doesn’t just taste, she consumes.

Venus is Scorpio doesn’t know how to love just a little. She doesn’t flirt, she doesn’t play games- and she is all the more magnetic for that. She is as she is and when she wants something or someone, she wants all of it with all of her being- and doesn’t care how long it takes. Sort of like when you have a craving for, say, Pinot Gris, but all that is in the fridge is Chardonnay.

If, like me, you have Venus in Aries, you will drink the Chardonnay anyway, even though you know it will give you a headache after 2 glasses- anything for quick gratification. If you have Venus in Scorpio, you will wait until you can drink the Pinot Gris, and not settle for anything else. Why eat the dairy milk when you can hold out for the 70% cocoa Lindt. Venus in Scorpio is directly focused when it comes to her pleasure- and is prepared to wait for it…in need. Unfortunately I have Venus exactly inconjunct Pluto, so not only do I go for the quick fix (ie the chardonnay), I will still crave what I truly want (ie the pinot gris in this rather poor example).


When she does fall in love, it is with every fibre of her being, and she will assume that you will be the same. This can be tricky if you are not a watery type. Scorpio doesn’t like to talk about it- you are supposed to just “know”. It is about feeling your way- words mean nothing.

When you have been loved by a Scorpio, you will know you have been loved. She will be jealous, she will be possessive and if you cheat, she will never forgive you…and she will take her revenge, eventually.

Will she cheat on you? By now you should know my thoughts on this one- any sign has the ability to cheat given the right motivations, circumstances and mindset. Venus in Scorpio is so contained and so private, you will probably never know- she is a master at compartmentalizing.

Scorpio is fixed, private and stubbornly loyal- once you have earned her trust. She will demand absolute honesty and fidelity from you, but is not above falling for another if she feels that you have betrayed her, become distant or are not as fully into her as you should be. If your Scorpio woman does cheat, don’t discount power or control as being the motivating factors.

If she suspects you are not entirely honest, she becomes the most brilliant forensic detective- and will continue to pursue the truth until she has either proven your guilt, or accepted your innocence. With Scorpio, innocent until proven guilty does not apply. Just make sure you have removed all traces of any incriminating texts or emails…

Having said that, Venus in Scorpio attaches deeply and emotionally, and has difficulty in separating sex from love. Sex for Scorpio is an 8th house transformative, life changing experience, not 5th house fun. Don’t mess with Scorpio in love unless you are prepared to pay the price if it all falls apart. But, if you are prepared to take the risk, Scorpio is absolutely unforgettable.

Find all of this a little disturbing? Venus in Scorpio is like the forbidden apple- you know it’s not right, but by god does it feel good!

If you are a man with Venus in Scorpio, this is pretty well how you approach love and relationships- with single minded intensity…and your prey will not stand a chance! You will be attracted to women who are in touch with their darker, more base instincts. She will have either a strong Scorpio signature to her chart, or a strong Pluto element to her chart- eg Scorpio personal planets or Pluto closely aspecting her personal planets (especially the Moon or Venus). She may have a full 8th house or Pluto in the 7th. Either way, you are a man who likes a challenge and may enjoy the odd power game, so to speak.


From a fashion viewpoint, Venus in Scorpio favours the darkside. She is the classic femme fatale, Mata Hari or the male equivalent. She is clad is a sharp pencil skirt, spike heels and a silk blouse. She is a leather clad, stiletto shod domanitrix. She is the Emo hanging around Flinders St station with piercings and ink. She is all of these and none of them. Even when she is at her most conservative, there will be an edge of some sort to what she wears.

As for interiors, think black, dark purple, blood red, leather, silk and sumptuous gothic underworld crypt-ish glamour. Check out the photo below. It was taken last year at Spellbox- The Witches House in Melbourne. Unfortunately the shop has now closed (but Spellbox the original remains very much alive in the Royal Arcade), but the interior was Venus in Scorpio personified. With gothic styled book-shelves containing apothecary bottles of all conceivable herbs and powders, scrying bowls, owls, mortar and pestles and twigs of birch as accessories. Drapes of purple and jewelled blue fabrics from the ceiling and turquoise walls, with the only light coming from candelabra and crystal chandeliers, this shop was Venus in Scorpio interior decorating bliss…although for home use you may want to tone it down just a tad!

Pic by me
Pic by me

J’ai ton amour et je veux ta revanche

J’ai ton amour, I don’t wanna be friends

…you and me could write a bad romance…

Lyrics from Bad Romance by Lady Gaga

Does this read like you or someone you know? If you are a Scorpio woman or a man or woman with Venus in Scorpio or Venus conjunct, square, inconjunct or opposite Pluto, this may read a little too true (and tempting) for comfort!

Heathcliff, Wuthering Heights and Venus in Scorpio

Not exactly Wuthering Heights- the Desert Rd,north Island, NZ (Pic by me)
Not exactly Wuthering Heights- the Desert Rd,north Island, NZ (Pic by me)

Wuthering Heights is one of my all time favourite books. It has all the ingredients of a truly obsessive, passionate, all consuming romance… with a bit of revenge thrown in…and that gets me going quite nicely thank-you very much. I don’t think Emily Bronte was interested in astrology- it wasn’t really the done thing back in those days for well brought up young girls… (actually writing such a heavy handed romance probably wasn’t the done thing either, which was probably why she published it as Ellis Bell). That being said, Heathcliff is incredibly scorpionic:

  • Abandoned as a child, he transforms himself into a wealthy and powerful man- like a phoenix from the ashes, he is reborn and unrecognisable.
  • He had magnetism and sex appeal to coax Isabella into running away with him
  • His love for Cathy was all consuming, undying and obsessive. He was not prepared to share her. The scene where he does the unthinkable and opens her grave in order to ensure that in death he can be as one with her is base level Scorpio.
  • Revenge fantasies… need I say more? Heathcliff patiently builds his fortune and plots the downfall of those who have hurt him- revenge being served very cold indeed.

I could go on, but you get the picture?

(Pic by me)
(Pic by me)

Emily Bronte has not been the only author over the years to use the Heathcliff imagery. Many romance novelists unconsciously use the male Scorpio archetype as their Hero.  Consider, a powerful, magnetic presence, extremely male, with eyes a girl could melt in and a mesmerising physical presence which can be felt and inhaled. Despite her best efforts she can’t resist the attraction, and hates herself for it, but his raw sexuality is the stuff fantasies are made of. The Hero himself is incredibly private and manages to control his feelings behind the pain of previous heartbreak that must be acknowledged and dealt with before he can give himself to the heroine and be transformed by love. He sends signals so subtle that she is unsure of his feelings and often struggles between the fantasy being played out in her head against what he says and how he acts. Welcome to Venus in Scorpio.

Venus in Scorpio is considered in traditional astrology to be in her detriment. Scorpios natural secrecy, paranoia and reluctance to trust makes it difficult for love to be given and received freely. These traits often lead others to consider Venus in Scorpio as being anti-social, but really she just likes to stand on the sidelines and observe.

In order to feel close to others she must feel intensely. This is emotional and physical penetration- something which can be quite frightening to signs not as motivated by their emotions. It can be especially un-nerving to Venus in air and fire signs where freedom and a level of detachment are required in order to function at their most creative. Venus in Scorpio has no time for detachment- relationships are all-consuming and ultimately healing.

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Women with Venus in Scorpio are intensely sexual. This is the archetypal vamp whereby her sexuality and her ability to attract becomes very much part of her ego and confidence- more so, perhaps, than her ability to connect with her partners in a non sexual manner. A woman with Venus in Scorpio is able to have sex like a man (remember that episode of Sex and the City?).

A man with this placement is after a powerful woman, someone with Scorpio traits, a strong Mars identity, someone who is into intense relationships. He wants to be transformed through his relationships. The perfect housewife need not apply- this man needs passion and intensity. Twin sets and pearls don’t have a place… unless they are used for role-playing in the bedroom… but that is the subject of an entirely different post 🙂

Venus is in Scorpio from November 9 to December 1… enjoy 🙂