Venus in Aries: Holding Out For a Hero
I have Venus in Aries & love it. It gives me some fire and drive that my otherwise water-logged chart wouldn’t have. Even though I still can be way too Piscean about going after what I want, I do want what I want NOW! I look for Aries or strong Mars in relationships & like a good battle… & a good bicep… but enough about me…
Venus doesn’t particularly like being in Aries. Venus is all about the things that make us feel good and Aries is just so… obvious, direct & warlike- not at all what Venus is supposed to be like. Venus is the ruler of Taurus and Libra, so is much more at home draped nonchalantly across a chaise longue sipping champagne, receiving a manicure (with her free hand, of course) and being fed chocolates by a rather gorgeously buffed footballer rather than charging off to battle. She has loved the last few weeks in Pisces, where she can be super sensitive, indulge in total romantic fantasy and be just a tad non- discriminating in the love stakes. But all good things come to an end and sometimes a girl just can’t rely on sympathy & lowered lashes to get her man.
Aries, on the other hand is ruled by Mars, the God of War. Venus in Aries has to dust off the romance and becomes pure huntress to grab what she wants. In Pisces Venus is able to get what she wants in a Pisces way- often through manipulation of others, sometimes through playing the victim. In Pisces she can be the damsel in distress. In Pisces, Venus is ultra feminine. In Aries, if she wants something she just straps on her boots, her red bra (any self respecting woman with Venus in Aries should have at least 1 red accessory…) and her attitude and marches right on in to get it…for herself. In Aries she can look after herself.
Venus in Aries is very much “me first” and is a lot more selfish in what she wants and when she wants it- and that is absolutely OK. She also knows who she wants…for a time. If you have Venus in Aries you love quickly, impulsively, competitively & independently. If you have ever woken in the middle of the night with the sudden urge to sing a Partridge Family song, odds are you have Venus in Aries.
It is for this reason that Aries women, or women with Venus in Aries may have difficulty in defining what their version of femininity is. She is self sufficient. She is independent. She can fight her own battles and solve her own problems. She doesn’t need a partner to look after her, she just needs a partner for the game of life. She wants someone to play with, to argue with, to make love with- a passionless relationship is, for her, a deal breaker.
From a style viewpoint, she likes to travel for speed rather than bling and brand. She likes to be comfortable and ready for whatever gets thrown at her. Complicated accessories are not her scene.
The Aries Venus woman needs a Mars type man. Whilst she can look after herself perfectly well, she doesn’t want a man who needs looking after. She wants a hero. She wants someone she can battle with & have great make up sex with later, someone who knows what he wants, someone who doesn’t make it too easy for her. Even if her Sun is in Pisces, she needs a real man- a Superman to sweep her off her feet.
To hang onto your Aries woman, make sure you give her the freedom she needs, and whatever you do, don’t take her for granted or make life too easy for her. She needs a little competition, a little action and a lot of passion. For Ms Aries, action speaks louder than words. She doesn’t want you to whisper sweet things in her ear unless you intend on following through. She doesn’t want to hear “sorry” unless the make up sex is likely to follow as well.
The man with Venus in Aries is most likely going to be attracted to a woman with Arian qualities- someone who is a little impulsive, perhaps headstrong and absolutely independently minded. She will be someone who can look after herself. She will be his hero…and probably have at least 1 set of red lingerie.
And, here is the song- not the Bonnie Tyler version, but sung by Jennifer Saunders (of AbFab) from the Shrek soundtrack.
Where have all the good men gone
And where are all the gods?
Where’s the street-wise Hercules
To fight the rising odds?
Isn’t there a white knight upon a fiery steed?
Late at night I toss and turn and dream
of what I need
I need a hero
I’m holding out for a hero ’til the end of the night
He’s gotta be strong
And he’s gotta be fast
And he’s gotta be fresh from the fight
I need a hero
I’m holding out for a hero ’til the morning light
He’s gotta be sure
And it’s gotta be soon
And he’s gotta be larger than life
Lyrics from Holding Out For a Hero originally by Bonnie Tyler.