My Aries at Work post is here. Warning… I was grumpy when I wrote it….

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Relationships, for better or for worse, are absolutely pivotal in our lives. Whether we are in one, finishing one, contemplating one, complaining about one or yearning for one, our key relationships and their relative health impact the way we see ourselves, the way we feel about ourselves, the way the world sees us and just how happy or otherwise our home and work life is.

The 7^th house, or Descendant, is where we meet other people in relationship. Don’t just think life and marriage partners; think about other relationships- business partnerships, colleagues, openly declared enemies. Yep, enemies, well those who make no secret about how they feel about you, also belong in the 7^th house.*

If Jupiter makes things bigger, makes things happen quicker, what do you think might happen when he comes rampaging happily through your 7^th house? Well, for a start you will probably have meet more people, but they will be relationships that will, in some way, help you to grow. They will be relationships that fill a gap.

A 7^th house transit doesn’t necessarily mean that you will meet and fall in love with the man of your dreams who will also love you and you will live happily ever after. There generally needs to be some other indicators in the chart for that. But it does mean that you may come into contact with people who do fulfil something within you which can’t be met alone. This could be a romantic partnership, a business partnership or a professional partnership.

I got engaged during a Jupiter 7^th house transit back in 1993, and then in the most recent transit 2005 was drawn into partnerships at work with people who whether they know it or not, changed my life and its’ focus through our relationship.

When Saturn comes through the 7^th house, your commitment is tested- many people either make a commitment during this transit or re-think a commitment made earlier in the cycle. But isn’t Jupiter supposed to be about fun stuff? This transit is good for partnerships, but as usual with Jupiter transits, care has to be taken not to take those partnerships for granted.

Jupiter transits of the 7^th may have you wanting more from a relationship that is actually really pretty good. The danger is when you expect more from your partner when in fact you maybe should be looking at yourself. Jupiter transits of the 7^th may also drop temptations into your lap that are not really that healthy for you to pursue. The risk is great and before you know it you have slipped up in a pretty major way. Then again, maybe you had to listen to the siren call of another in order to recognise that there actually was something within your relationship that wasn’t fulfilling you. Jupiter presents the opportunities- it is up to you to take them.

Relationships that come into your life during this transit will have a Jupiter nature about them- they may be with Jupiterian types- larger than life or perhaps someone who can teach you something. There could be an overseas or travel element involved, or maybe even just getting involved with someone who is from a completely different race or background to you- someone who makes you think and learn outside of your previous boundaries.

People who come into your life at this time have the potential to impact your life on every level, but as always with Jupiter- excesses and over-stepping yourself can get you into trouble…but then again, isn’t that what relationships are about? For better and for worse?

If you are Virgo or Virgo Rising, Jupiter will be going through your 7^th house while it is in Pisces. Other mutable signs- Pisces, Sagittarius and Gemini will feel challenges through the other angles in their chart too as relationship issues are reflected back on work/life balance and your own needs as an individual.

*Friends are 11^th house matters, Bosses (unless you are involved outside of work and therefore don’t think of him/her as your boss) are 10^th house, and children are 5^th house. Your “servants” (people who work for you) are 6^th house and the back stabbing B@#$%^ in the next partition who smiles at you while secretly spreading malicious gossip is a secret enemy, so a 12^th house relationship.

For those who are interested, today is the first day of the Astrological New Year- Autumn Equinox in the Southern Hemisphere and Spring Equinox in the North. To Pagans it is Ostara in the Northern Hemisphere and Mabon here in the Southern- a time when day and night are equal and the harvest is stored away for the cold of winter. I would like to say that the Astrological New Years Eve is why I had a few drinks last night & fell slightly off the wagon of my Plan (incidentally 3 kgs in 3 weeks), but not so.

It is birthday season in our house, with mine last week and my daughters’ this coming week, so the middle of March is full of lunches, family dinners and pre-season soccer games (hubby has pulled on the boots for possibly the last season- although he did say that last year as well).

On the Blogs

The mood is very much Aries at the moment- & who could possibly ignore that? The feeling of fresh promise, excitement and perpetual motion has certainly helped me at the gym over the last week when my legs threaten to drop off during the workouts from hell.

With Mercury in Aries at present, communication is direct and to the point. I have written a couple of posts on this placement:

• Lets Get Loud- for Your Career & the Cosmos- Mercury in Aries and workplace communication
• I Like it Loud- From fantasy land in Pisces, Mercury is moving into Aries ready to put his money where his all too loud mouth is. Also how to annoy someone with Mercury in Aries- you never know when it will come in handy.

Also on the Aries theme:

• On Your Career & the Cosmos- Watch me pull a rabbit out of a hat- Everything you ever wanted to know about your Aries Boss, but were too scared to ask.
• Pandemonium- Aries in all his wonderful yet exhausting glory. Dedicated with love to my favourite Rams.

Also on Your Career & the Cosmos:

• When Outer Planets Attack- how transits to the Ascendant can actually impact the way that you look… and why I cut most of my hair off… still not sure it was a good idea- I feel a bit like Frida from Abba in one of the really frizzy bad hair videoclips J
• Blue Water Dreaming and Pisces Goal Setting- are goals and Pisces contradictions or oxymorons?

The Plan Update

With the birthday festivities, I have fallen off the wagon a bit, but still managed to maintain my gym regime & weekly losses. A really hard week coming up as I will be away (for work) for the best part of 2 weeks from next Monday & know from experience that being lonely & stress can make my excuses incredibly creative!

What’s happening up there?

Not a lot of planetary movement this week. The focus well and truly remains on Aries. With the Sun in Aries (where it is exalted) and Mars moving forward again in Leo, there is plenty of possibility to take action towards those goals. Anything requiring the expenditure of energy will be rewarded. In my case that means more hours in the gym.

(Aries- Symbalon cards)

Astrologers’ attitudes to Sun signs are a little like parents who have a heap of kids- you love them all and even though you know that you shouldn’t, you do have your favourites. Just like parents, there are days where you would sell certain ones for the price of a cupcake. We clash with those who are either most like us or are so different that we can’t understand them. Then there is always the one who is so exasperating and so annoying and so frustrating and yet so goddamn irresistible that we can’t help but lavish a little extra attention.

For me, this is always Aries. I make no apology. I have Venus in Aries so Aries type things and Aries type people make me feel good and excited and alive- which is lucky as I am surrounded by Rams. My daughter has 4 Aries planets (including a 4^th house Sun) and my 6ft whatever baby brudda and absolute bestest male friend are both 1^st house Aries Sun & Mars. This post is especially for my favourite Rams, with my love- you know who you are- as chaotic, exhausting and addictive as you are.

I love you really, though I know no-one believes me,
there’s chaos every time we meet

For Aries winning, being first, leading the pack is not a preferred option, it is a birthright, a destiny almost. Aries is about life force, will, courage and an absolute desire to achieve- at all costs. With this will come independence, assurance and unapologetic selfishness.  The biggest challenge for Aries is to learn to pick which battles he really wants to fight, to learn what can and what can’t be controlled or changed.

Oh no, look what you’ve gone and done
you’re creating pandemonium

Aries will blaze trails, fight fires and accept dares. In doing so, the Ram is a stress magnet and manages to create crises in order to solve them and prove his courage. Sometimes it is as if he is whirling from challenge to challenge simply for the sake of perpetual motion. As such, “burn out” is the most common health problem for Aries- when your body just says it has had enough.

Similarly, Aries can be quite accident prone- again because of carelessness as a result of physical exhaustion or fearlessness. Aries Rising, in particular, will carry scars from previous battles, mishaps or tree climbing incidents, or- as in the case of my Aries Rising brudda & Aries Rising (Capricorn) sister- train throwing, toy gun throwing or bike/clothesline collisions. As the Ram usually charges head first, horns down, most scars will be around the head.

You’re crashing everywhere, it’s like you’re smashing china,
skidding on an icy road.
You’re major trouble since you were almost a minor-
I sometimes think we’ll both explode.

At the other end of the spectrum, Aries can easily become depressed or ill when he feels that he doesn’t have a challenge or has lost “himself” in the service or responsibility of others. Aries can also have health issues when fear replaces courage. In order to keep the flame burning, Aries does have to keep moving. A bored Aries will pick a fight or create a crisis just for the sake of having a fire to fight. A fearful Aries will hide behind excuses and coulda woulda shouldas.

If we both just stopped for a minute
I declare war and then you’d win it

Aries loves impetuously, completely and quickly, but needs challenge and movement to keep the fire alive. For Aries of both sexes, the hunt is the most exciting part of the game. Space and personal freedom is also important for both sexes to stay healthy and creative. Aries will respond to confinement and loss of independence and purpose with chronic poor health.

The first man who ever broke my heart was an Aries. I fell completely for his impulsive, impetuous, energetic and completely whole hearted pursuit. I believed every line he spun and every us together forever dream he shared. He chased so hard and was so totally there and unable to be ignored that when the passion of the hunt moved to another I couldn’t quite believe it. Whilst he certainly took a lot of getting over, at 21, it was all as it should have been.

The Aries man has an almost domineering sex appeal- you can’t help but notice or be affected by his presence- especially if Mars is also in Aries. He will usually be body conscious, works to maintain his fitness and has, shall we say, huge amounts of energy. He will encourage you to look after yourself as well and will make an excellent training partner. He will sweep you off your feet, and will pop you up on a pedestal and blame you if you fall off. He will take charge, solve your problems and inject you with some of his enthusiasm. He can be tactless, honest, incredibly competitive and totally irresistible.

That song you sing means everything
to me, I’m living in ecstasy.
My world’s gone mad, what did you do?

He will need space to move and will run a mile if he feels that he needs you too much or if he feels you are trying to control him. The only way to keep an Aries man is on a very long leash and with him believing that he is not in any way dependent on you for anything. He has to win, likes to think your world revolves around him and will want to know that he is the best you have ever had… and, if you can handle the pace, he very well may be! Challenge, mutual discovery and the occasional battle of wills (followed by make- up sex) will keep his interest. Although he wants to win, he wants the outcome to be worth the effort and is suspicious and bored with easy victories.

The Aries woman is independent, self assured and direct. She will say what she thinks and is prepared to suffer the consequences. She knows what and who she wants and can’t be faffed waiting for him to make the first move. She doesn’t play games and will tellyou clearly what she needs. She has energy to burn and will fight for her man and her children. She will, however, suffer if locked in a relationship where her own needs are secondary to those of others. This is not a woman who thrives in a boring or unchanging relationship.

She will push to achieve in the workplace, as long as she can withstand external pressures of what and who she should be. In such instances fear can overshadow courage. Even if not in the workplace she needs external meaningful interests and causes or battles to fight. The Aries woman can look after herself and needs a man who appreciates her strength and who is prepared to give her personal and creative freedom. Without this, resentment will breed and despondency and ill health will follow.

Is this a riot or are you just pleased to see me?
Why aren’t we holding hands and talking sweets?

The Sun is said to be exalted, or exaggerated in Aries. The Sun is dramatic and creative in “look at me, all about me” Leo, but in Aries it is pioneering, adventurous and very much “this is my life”. Aries takes the energy of the Sun and turns it into something amazing. Embrace this, and act- don’t just think about it or talk about it… get out there and do it. No regrets, no excuses.

Lyrics from “Pandemonium” by the Pet Shop Boys. See the video on YouTube.

Everything you always wanted to know about Aries Boss but he didn’t hang around for long enoughfor you to ask. My latest post for astrology.com is here.