Venus represents what our relationship needs are, what makes us feel good and also how we decorate ourselves (for want of a better term) to look good. Venus in a mans chart tells us what he wants in a woman.
I rarely wear white, yet have often wished I could. Not because it doesn’t suit me, but because it rarely stays white. I inevitably spill red wine or slosh laksa if I am wearing white. Even if I drink white wine and eat salad, I will attract other peoples’ mess or sit on the only seat with crap on it or have it accidentally go through the wash with Hubby’s red football socks.
Recently, I found the perfect white T shirt. Not only did it fit rather than simply enclose, but it was the perfect neckline, washed well & had stayed clean for simply ages. I figured it was safe to take on holidays. So, I wore it to the Indonesian village we were staying near. I ate a chilli sambal chicken, satay sticks and drank beer. Looked down… yep, still white. Congratulated myself rather heartily, poured another beer in celebration & brushed the fresh henna tattoo on my wrist across my right boob. Goodbye white tshirt & hello smudged yin/yang- which I then had to live with until it wore off.
Venus in Virgo, however, can wear white… successfully. In fact, with this placement, you will be able to wear all white and have it stay white and be like those beautiful people in the holiday brochures that stroll hand in hand up the beach in filmy white linen and white bikinis. The sand will not stick & the salt water will dry clear & not sticky and your linen won’t look all nasty and creased like mine does. But of course, Venus in Virgo has difficulty in relaxing for long enough to do this- there is way too much they need to be doing, and anyway, surely their abs aren’t yet quite good enough? Given that this placement is usually held by people also with pretty neat & trim bodies (there are exceptions to every rule), I think this is an absolute waste of white. Yes, there is a reasonable amount of envy in what I say.
Yet despite this amazing ability to wear white, stay clean, be trim and eat well, Venus in Virgo is in what traditional astrologers term the sign of her fall. This doesn’t mean that Venus is weak in Virgo, far from it. She is in a position where she can’t use her strength, in a place which is alien to her. Venus loves pleasure, beauty, art, food. What she doesn’t like is too much hard work, conflict, sacrifice, deprivation and details. In Virgo she has to operate within a sign that thrives on work, analyses details, is extremely conscious about what food is consumed and strives for perfection. This is not a comfortable place for her to be.
In Virgo, Venus is earthily tactile and sensual, yet efficient, reliable, faithful and practical. Despite her tendency to nitpick, her heart is in the right spot- she means well. Venus in Virgo does have a reputation as a nag in relationships, but will give more of herself in a relationship than you can or will ever notice- nothing pleases her more than to have someone to do things for, to serve, to worry about, to put on a diet. Stephen Arroyo, in his great book Relationships and Life Cycles suggests that Venus in Virgo people “should simply keep their mouth shut. If they want to express their affection for someone they should …rub their back, or do something practical for them- not criticise.”
I asked an astro colleague a few weeks back what it was like having Venus in Virgo. She replied that with Venus in Virgo, she often referred to herself as “The Flying Nun.” Not really sure how to take that one, but this placement does tend towards Puritanism- although, like all Earth signs, Venus in Virgo does make for a sensual lover- more than what you may think. For her the pleasure is in giving, not receiving. The perceived controlled coolness is a reflection of the Virgo discrimination, purity and concern with cleanliness and hygiene, not a lack of sensation.
Men with Venus in Virgo are looking for a woman with Virgo traits- physically she will be trim, tidy and clean; mentally she will be quick, organised and disciplined, and sexually she will be faithful and methodical… and she will be able to wear white.